Jan 31, 2014

Why I'm Happy I Had My Kids Before the Invention of the iPad


Warning.  This post is very gushy. 
And not at all fitness related. 
But that's ok.  
This is a place my sisters and I can chat about everything going on in our lives. 

Some quick info for you today…..I'm an overly sentimental person.
Overly sensitive, overly emotional and overly sentimental.  
These are words to describe me.
Not always the best combination, but it's me. 

So today I wanted to share a few of my mommy tips that I've learned over the years to be very important.  Hopefully I can, in some way, encourage and inspire you to stop and smell the roses when life gets too hectic and busy.  

More background info: my whole life I only dreamt of one thing…… to be a mom. 
Never did I dream about a career…… or house…… or car.  
Only about one day having children.  

Recently I have been reflecting on old photos as I have been uploading them onto my computer, along with home videos, so that I can create fun photo books for each of my girls.  Something I have never done.  

This has me feeling very nostalgic and overly emotional and it got me thinking about a few things that I would tell new moms, like my sister Maggie, who is due this March with her son.  

Here we go……

#1.  Buy a nice camera! 

I don't care if you have to sell a body part or organ to raise the money to do so…. it's worth it.  Save up and get a REAL camera to capture your children when they are little.  I didn't get a REAL camera until my girls were all older and I so wish I would have had the chance to take more photos of the girls when they were smaller.  




See what a REAL camera can capture? It's worth every penny.  Do it. 







Although these are really out of focus,  the action shots are so worth having a nice, quick shooting camera!



Real cameras rule! 
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#2. Write everything down! 

I mean it.  I know you THINK you will remember when your  kids says "These undies really keeps my hair out of my face mom!" But you won't.  Believe me.  
Write it down. 




When my girls were little I bought these journals and started from the beginning.  I wrote about my pregnancy and our life at the time they were in my belly.  Then I summarized each month of their life when they were babies….. when they rolled over, when they walked and what their first words were.  As they grow older, I journal in more depth about the things we did and talked about.  






Whenever my girls do or say things I want to remember, I run over to our family planner and calendar that sits in our kitchen.  I write it down in whatever month it took place so that I can transfer it to their journals.  It ranges from things like "Gracie sat in my bedroom in her ducky boots and tutu reading for 45 minutes" to Sophie came up to me and kissed me on both cheeks and said, two kisses for you because you are the best Mommy that God ever made."

This is the good stuff.  
The stuff you want to remember when you are 85 sitting in a rocking chair on the front porch. 
I guarantee you won't be reminiscing about your cool new shoes you just got.  
You will be remembering the good stuff….. the stuff that matters. 



#3 Make stuff for your kids. 

I don't care if you've never made a thing in your life. 
Google it and LEARN. 
Take the time to create something for your children.  
Something for them to remember and keep forever. 







Something they know you created just for them.
Blankets, headbands, skirts, dresses, pillow cases……
Do it. 



I taught myself to sew after Gracie was born.  
It's one of the things I'm most proud of.  





To look back and see all the fun things I created just for them makes me smile and the girls are so proud of the stuff that their Mommy made for them. 



#4.  Remain Old-Fashioned in an iPad World 

This is a hard one for me to articulate to parents.  
I can see and feel this with people in my life….. but it's hard to put into words.
By I will try. 

I'm so happy that I had my girls before the iPad.  Sounds silly, huh? 
But it's true.  
I'm thankful I didn't have the option to put a movie on for them or let them play games while at restaurants or events. 

Don't get me wrong, I think iPads are pretty awesome.  And we have one and love it.
However, I'm still glad that I didn't have this option when my girls were young.  
I was forced to be old-school in many ways with my parenting. 

I really had to teach them how to behave in certain situations.  
I am not sure if many parents are forced to do this as much as they should these days.   

I guess, what I'm trying to say with this one, is that you don't have to succumb to all of society's rules. 
Just because all of the other parents are sticking iPads in front of their kids at restaurants or family gatherings, YOU don't have to.  You can talk to your children.  You can make your own rules.  

In my heart and soul,  I know why my girls are the way they are in this world. 
They way they treat people with respect, act kindly in school, help me when asked without talking back, offer to do nice things for others………

It's because I made being a mommy my job in life.  

I did not and will not let society tell me how to raise my family.  
I did choose and will continue to choose the best way to raise happy and healthy kids. 

And, my main advice regarding this whole random topic, is to be present.  
Spend time with each other.  
Don't allow the busy, hectic, society we live in CONTROL what you do in your home. 

Just because all your children's friends have phones or iPads or iPod touches or iPad minis….and sit there texting away their life…..you do what YOU feel is best for your children.  And my advice is that YOU are what your children need.  Not things.  

Take the time to create memories with each other. 
Laugh. 
Talk. 
Love. 


Yesterday I created my very first iMovie.
It was disturbingly tricky.  
But I made one. 
It's not good…. at all.  
But I'd like to share it with you all.  







I hope it allows you to reflect today on your life and be reminded of the LEGACY you are creating every single day of your life.  

Making choices daily is the name of the game.
And the sad thing is, there are no do-overs. 

Put your best foot forward. 
Live and learn. 
And take your job as a parent seriously. 
Because your choices are creating the little souls that look to you every day for love and inspiration. 

You got this.
And remember…. Nice Camera, Write it Down, Make Stuff and Be Present!


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XOXO 
Marta

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    1. Carly- I have a Cannon Rebel and love it! Totally easy to use (for someone like me who is not a pro!) but takes amazing photos!

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  2. Glad you posted this. What a wonderful reminder and I agree about the ipads, I am afraid my kids will be behind the times when it comes to technology but I rather them beg to go outside and play instead of play with devices and the best thing we ever did was get rid of cable:)

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    1. Thanks Hannah! I totally agree! Thanks for reading!

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  4. LOVE LOVE this!!! SO true! Your girls are so beautiful!

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  5. Okay- You are the epitome of an amazing mother! I don't have kids right now, BUT I do have this bookmarked and will reference when I do! I love that you are so tuned into your kids and you can tell by the smile on their faces that they love you with all their hearts!
    Second, I wanted to nominate you for the Liebster Award! If you haven't been nominated yet, hop over and see what going on ! http://brassybrittanyb.blogspot.com/

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    1. Aw, thank you so much Brittany! That is the BEST compliment and mom can ever hear! I appreciate your words so much. Thank you for reading!!

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